At the end of the day, we all just want to love and be loved. Not an easy thing to accomplish when we grow up in sometimes invalidating and hostile environments where we aren’t appreciated for who we naturally are. We develop creative ways to defend against rejection and to get some of our needs met, but often at the expense of our full self. This can work okay for a period of time until the pain gets too great from the weight of the pressure to be something or someone that is NOT truly us.

Pema Chödrön says, “Pain is a perfect opportunity for growth.” In fact, it’s often what brings people to therapy. Pain wakes us up from our own self-created delusions and gives us a chance to re-write the way we approach life’s inevitable stressors.

To do this “internal work”… to get to know ourselves more deeply with compassion and care … is an exciting yet sometimes scary journey. We may come face to face with aspects of ourselves that we don’t like or would rather not have.

Having the unconditional care and guidance from a seasoned therapist you feel safe with is an important part of this courageous journey.

James Guay LMFT #mft39252

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