Category: Sex, Love & Relationships

Healing from a Break Up

Grief and Loss

Remember the exquisite pain of your first long-term relationship break up? Going through the ending of a significant relationship can be exponentially more difficult for LGBTQ people, having been rejected, demeaned and devalued by society-at-large and too often by our family of origin.

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Dating Etiquette for the Modern Age

On Line Dating

With all the technological advances of online dating resources and phone apps, it can be tricky to figure out how best to find your mate! All of my recommendations come down to two main points:

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Think You’re Codependent?

Codependency has become an overused term that encompasses any seemingly unhealthy dependence in a relationship.  But what does it REALLY  mean to be codependent?

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Relationship Goals for the New Year

Do New Year’s Resolutions work?  If so, how best should you set them up?  Can you have goals for your relationship?  How about if you’re single? Watch our episode to hear our words of encouragement and advice.

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Being Single During the Holidays

Being single during the holidays isn’t always easy.  Listen to our tips on holiday dating, coping with expectations, and how to navigate these sometimes challenging waters. Here’s our podcast on the same topic:

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Why is the “Sex Addiction” Diagnosis Harmful?

Open hand raised Sex Addiction sign painted multi purpose concept - isolated on white background

Below is an interview with David Ley about the new position statement by the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors, and Therapists (AASECT).

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Mindfulness with Compassion: Essential Tools for Inner Work

What is mindfulness?

According to Jon Kabat-Zin, mindfulness is paying attention, on purpose, in the present moment, and non-judgmentally.

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Sex Addiction & Porn Addiction Concepts Are Failing Clients


Here’s an article I collaborated on entitled, How The Concepts of “Sex Addiction” and “Porn Addiction” are Failing Clients, published in the California Association of Marriage and Family Therapists’ Magazine, The Therapist, in their September/October 2016 issue.

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The Myth of Sex Addiction

The Myth of Sex Addiction by Dr. David Ley

Labels like sex addict, love addict and porn addict are becoming much more frequently used in pop culture.  But does sex addiction, love addiction and porn addiction even really exist? Currently, these “diagnoses” have not been accepted into the “Bible of Mental Disorders” — the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual for Mental Disorders (DSM-5).  Despite heavy lobbying

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The Sexual Dependency Inventory


An esteemed colleague of mine, Dr. David Ley (shown in the video I created above), wrote a blog for Psychology Today that was removed due to legal threat from some in the Sex Addiction Industry.  Below is his introductory note, and formerly published article.   Note by Dr. David Ley: “The  below post was originally

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