Category: LGBTQ topics

Surviving the Holidays if Your Family Voted for Trump


Did your family vote for Trump? Feeling betrayed, depressed, hurt, angry, or scared? Finding it difficult to imagine being with your family of origin during the holidays?

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Sex Addiction & Porn Addiction Concepts Are Failing Clients


Here’s an article I collaborated on entitled, How The Concepts of “Sex Addiction” and “Porn Addiction” are Failing Clients, published in the California Association of Marriage and Family Therapists’ Magazine, The Therapist, in their September/October 2016 issue.

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The Myth of Sex Addiction

The Myth of Sex Addiction by Dr. David Ley

Labels like sex addict, love addict and porn addict are becoming much more frequently used in pop culture.  But does sex addiction, love addiction and porn addiction even really exist? Currently, these “diagnoses” have not been accepted into the “Bible of Mental Disorders” — the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual for Mental Disorders (DSM-5).  Despite heavy lobbying

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Affirmative Therapy with Transgender and Gender Nonconforming Clients

Presentation on Affirmative Therapy with Transgender and Gender Nonconforming Clients at the LA-CAMFT Networking Brunch

Yesterday, I gave a presentation on Affirmative Therapy with Transgender and Gender Nonconforming (TGNC) Clients to my colleagues at the LA CAMFT Networking Brunch that covered the following topics: Basics Differences between sex, gender and sexuality Essential terminology Transphobia What it is How it affects TGNC clients Intersectionality What it is How transphobia intersects with other forms of oppression

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Annual Esalen Workshop

Offering mindfulness workshops for gay men For the past 9 years, I’ve co-created annual weekend workshops for gay men at the Esalen Institute on how to thrive in our lives using mindfulness practices.

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Social Activism

Advancing therapy for LGBTQ clients From Yahoo News (April 9, 2015): “A few months after a transgender teenager took her own life after undergoing religious conversion therapy, the White House issued a statement condemning the use of conversion therapy on youth. Yahoo News and Finance Anchor, Bianna Golodrgya, speaks to therapist, James Guay, about his

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Obama Supports Banning Conversion Therapy

On April 9, 2015, the White House issued statements condemning the use of conversion therapy on LGBTQ youth. Yahoo News and Finance Anchor, Bianna Golodrgya, interviewed me about my personal experiences being put through gay conversion therapy — also known as ex-gay therapy, reparative therapy, sexual orientation change efforts (SOCE). Here is US President Barack Obama’s full

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Sex & Relationships: How To Increase Sexual Intimacy

Sexual intimacy is not always an easy thing to create, let alone maintain in relationships. To help you out, I’ve created a 21-Day Challenge to enhance your sexual relationships: Greater Sexual Intimacy in 21 Days (Clickable PDF) Creating greater sexual intimacy isn’t just about how you have sex, it actually involves getting to know ourselves

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Dating Tips for Single Gay Dads

Dating can be a difficult territory to navigate, let alone as a single parent. There can also be special considerations for single gay dads. There are many different situations for single parents, depending on where you live, who your ex is, how much time you get with your child or children, their ages. So these

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Coming Out for Gay Dads

In this video, I talk about ways Gay Dads can come out of the closet and into the world with greater authenticity, compassion and aliveness. Whether you’re considering coming out to your children, partner or someone else, this process can be both liberating and anxiety provoking. While there’s no one “right way” of coming out

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