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What Going To Therapy Is Like

“Going to therapy is like getting a PhD in who you are.”

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Sex Addiction & Porn Addiction Concepts Are Failing Clients

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Here’s an article I collaborated on entitled, How The Concepts of “Sex Addiction” and “Porn Addiction” are Failing Clients, published in the California Association of Marriage and Family Therapists’ Magazine, The Therapist, in their September/October 2016 issue.

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The Myth of Sex Addiction

The Myth of Sex Addiction by Dr. David Ley

Labels like sex addict, love addict and porn addict are becoming much more frequently used in pop culture.  But does sex addiction, love addiction and porn addiction even really exist? Currently, these “diagnoses” have not been accepted into the “Bible of Mental Disorders” — the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual for Mental Disorders (DSM-5).  Despite heavy lobbying

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Healing From Narcissistic Abuse

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Being in a relationship with a Narcissist — whether as a friend, co-worker, family member, date, or intimate relationship — can be one of the most difficult and painful relationships to navigate.  While we all have legitimate needs for validation, someone with Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) takes it to a whole other, destructive, level. In order

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Mindful Hiking, Yosemite Wilderness

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  “Yosemite Valley, to me, is always a sunrise, a glitter of green and golden wonder in a vast edifice of stone and space.” — Ansel Adams

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Difficulties Using Insurance for Psychotherapy

A frequent question I receive from potential new clients wanting individual or couples counseling, is do I take insurance…perfectly appropriate question to ask.  But the answer can get a little complicated — it’s different using insurance for therapy versus other physical health problems where you’re seeing a medical doctor. Let me help clarify why using

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Couples Communication 101

Most couples come in to therapy interested in improving the way that they communicate with each other.  It may be that they either don’t communicate their needs and avoid conflict OR that they have endless conflict that doesn’t get resolved.  In either case, it can feel like they are not heard, understood and cared for.

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Couples Counseling Can Save Your Relationship

Have you ever been curious if couples counseling could improve your relationship?  Do you want outside help to create a better relationship or to end your relationship amicably?  Whether you’re in a high-conflict or conflict-avoidant relationship, whether you’re interested in rebuilding trust, communicating more effectively, or deepening vulnerability and intimacy with your partner(s), couples counseling

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What is Tantric Sex?

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Watch our video interview above and listen to today’s radio show below where we interview Tantra Expert, Dawn Cartwright, about what Tantra REALLY is and how it can enhance your intimate relationships.   Listen and SUBSCRIBE to our iTunes podcast here:

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Affirmative Therapy with Transgender and Gender Nonconforming Clients

Presentation on Affirmative Therapy with Transgender and Gender Nonconforming Clients at the LA-CAMFT Networking Brunch

Yesterday, I gave a presentation on Affirmative Therapy with Transgender and Gender Nonconforming (TGNC) Clients to my colleagues at the LA CAMFT Networking Brunch that covered the following topics: Basics Differences between sex, gender and sexuality Essential terminology Transphobia What it is How it affects TGNC clients Intersectionality What it is How transphobia intersects with other forms of oppression

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